Asked by Anonymous
Sometimes we are attracted to the wrong people.
People while physically beautiful, aren’t quite as pretty on the inside where it really matters.
Sometimes we think we can fix these people. Make them into something better.
Or sometimes we secretly think we deserve it. We aren’t good enough and deserve the treatment we are receiving.
Once we open our eyes to these things, it is hard to go back to just simply swooning every time we are around that person. Once you realize that, you acknowledge that instead of feeling butterflies, you are feeling like someone kicked you in the gut.
I think the first step is acknowledging that this crush isn’t harmless. You are causing yourself pain. Pain you do not deserve.
The second is forgiving yourself for caring about this person who doesn’t deserve your emotions.
The third, and this one is important, is to limit your interactions with this person or cut them out altogether. Why put yourself through that? If you are in a situation where you have to see them on a regular basis (work, school) that you have no control over, at least try to limit your interactions with them. Do not talk to them unless you have to and try to keep it to simple yes or no (one word answers). Put as much distance as possible. Stop thinking that if you said the right thing, wore your hair the right way, had a better outfit on, that they would treat you differently. The way this person is behaving isn’t about you. It is about them frankly being an asshat.
When you find yourself thinking of them, distract yourself. Read a book, watch something. Even better go out with friends who appreciate you and take careful steps to not talk about this person, because even if you are spending your time complaining about them, you are giving him your time. He doesn’t deserve it. So if you find yourself discussing him, force yourself to change the subject.
Eventually as you cut off the amount of time you spend with this person, thinking of this person, talking about them, you will find your feelings for them will start to dissipate. It isn’t going to happen over-night.
But it will happen. You deserve better. Make sure you tell yourself that, because I can say it, your friends can say it, your family, but until you start to tell yourself that, you aren’t going to believe it. So say it everyday until you feel it. Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” so stop allowing this guy or any person that amount of power.
calmingbrits you are awesome for this. You’re awesome for lots of other things, but right now specifically for this. xoxo
Apollo 11 carried a number of cameras for collecting data and recording various aspects of the mission, including a 35-mm surface close-up stereoscopic camera. It was designed for the highest possible resolution of a 3-inch square area with a flash illumination and fixed distance. Photography was accomplished by holding the camera on a walking stick against the object to be photographed. The camera was powered by four nickel-cadmium batteries that operated the motor-drive mechanism and an electronic flash strobe light.
There are many details seen in these pictures that were not known previously or that could not be seen with similar definition by astronauts Armstrong and Aldrin in their careful inspection of the lunar surface. The photographs taken on the mission with the close-up stereoscopic camera are of outstanding quality and show in detail the nature of the lunar surface material. From the photographs, information can be derived about the small-scale lunar surface geologic features and about processes occurring on the surface.
Image Credit: John Lloyd/NASA
These beautiful rocks form during the transformation of sediments into rock, as detailed in our recent post on concretions (see insert link). The septaria are the calcite filled cracks at the centre of the rock, indicating where the centres of the concretions have shrunk, possibly during dehydration during its long transformative journey. The actual process of formation remains unclear, and also include expansion of gases from decaying organic matter and fracturing by compaction from the weight of overlying sediment or tectonic pressure.
The most famous septarian nodules are the Moearaki Boulders, found weathering out of a Paleocene mudstone in South Island New Zealand (see http://tinyurl.com/lf35859)
Image credit: Keith Pomakis
One of my favorite geothings.